3 Blogging Lessons I’ve Learned

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Is it Cinco de Mayo yet?! I could really go for a margarita is anyone else with me? Well it is hump day right!? 🙂 Okay guys I have a fair warning before getting into this post.  It will be a little deep and you will see another side of me that maybe hasn’t been shown in any post or social.  I’m a little scared but I feel like it’s something I need to talk about.  It’s about 3 blogging lessons I’ve learned since starting my blog.

You’re probably wondering what I mean by that.  More or less I’ve been doing this for nine months and I’ve come to find something’s about myself in this blogging world.  I’ve also learned about how others outside perceive things inside this world and kind of just wanted to talk about it.  I’m going to list a couple because I’m sure there are a ton more that I’ve yet find out about.

Lesson 1: You are not going to be everyone’s cup of tea

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Lesson 2: Be Confident!

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Bloggers are seen as being vain and the industry is seen as materialistic and shallow.  It’s much more than that and believe me the confidence level to even go out and take pictures is tough.  When I first started blogging I was always so scared to take pictures.  Let alone do a photoshoot with 5 outfits.  Even after blogging for 9 months certain things still get me very nervous.

Lesson 3: Be True to Yourself

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But you know what forget what the norm is.  Break that norm and be yourself! Trust me I totally am! If you are comfortable in your own body and are feeling fabulous, then be fabulous girl! Don’t try to fit in that blogger picture.  I love seeing people be themselves and just being authentic.  I can relate to authenticity more than a mold.statement earrings, spring earrings, charming charlie's, summer earrings, pink & blue jewelry

I hope you guys enjoyed this post! This is just coming from the bottom of my heart and I’m not here to offend anyone.  We all go into different journeys and learn different things and I would love to hear what you have learned on your experience.

Have a great Wednesday!



Silvia M.

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  • Reply Crystal // Dreams, etc.

    Love this! I really appreciated that you went deeper than “blogging is hard work” and really got down to the personal side of blogging. It’s scary to put yourself out there (and I don’t even post pictures of myself that much!), but it is rewarding if you push past the fear. Thanks for putting yourself out there and sharing this post! 🙂

    May 3, 2017 at 11:04 am
    • Reply Silvia

      Omg you have no idea how much this means to me! Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I’m still pushing everyday and hope that it becomes easier.

      May 3, 2017 at 11:23 pm
  • Reply Erica @ Coming Up Roses

    Amen amen aaaaaaand AMEN! Also I’m with ya 10000% on the margarita.

    Coming Up Roses

    May 3, 2017 at 12:17 pm
  • Reply Mary

    Love it ! Thanks for share ! ❤️❤️❤️

    May 3, 2017 at 12:56 pm
  • Reply fairyprincessjord

    Love love love this post girl! I could not agree more! Over the past four years I’ve had a few negative comments on my blog but I try to just brush off anything mean and take any constructive criticism to try and improve. I think it is great to see passionate and fresh energetic bloggers like you in the blogosphere. You always have a positive disposition and unique twist on your posts!

    May 3, 2017 at 1:11 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Omg you are so sweet! Thank you for the support and thank you so much for understanding!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:25 pm
  • Reply Summer Telban (@SummerTelban)

    LOVED these, Silvia! Learning to be more confident is one of my blogging lessons too, for sure. Love this outfit, btw! Those shorts are too cute!

    May 3, 2017 at 1:58 pm
  • Reply Annette Dattilo

    Awesome post Silvia. I loved hearing your thoughts on the subject. It is so true that being ourselves is best. I too am way more interested in authenticity than anything else. I love love love your blog and what you have made of it. Keep it up girl. 💛

    May 3, 2017 at 2:47 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Thanks Annette! You’ve been such a good friend and I’m glad I can talk to you about some of these things!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:28 pm
  • Reply Laura

    The struggle and fear is real! I’m a lifestyle blogger but I’m still afraid to take photos in public with my tripod.

    But confidence is beautiful! You’re on the right track 🙂 you’ve figured out some important lessons early

    Laura @

    May 3, 2017 at 5:00 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Thanks Laura! You will get the confidence to get out there and take all those pictures. It took me a while too but it will get better!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:31 pm
  • Reply Caitlyn Stone

    Power to you for not letting fear hold you back from starting your blog! I’ve never been one to shy away from picture taking. I’m honestly that person who getting mad, not embarrassed, when someone catches me taking a selfie or an outfit pic because it means they ruined it!

    May 3, 2017 at 5:12 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Haha omg I need to be more like you!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:32 pm
  • Reply Virjinia

    Thanks for sharing about this! I totally feel you about this. Not everyone will enjoy our blogs but there’s still people who will support us. You’re a great blogger and I really liked your work!

    May 3, 2017 at 6:41 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Thanks Virjinia! Thank you so much for your support!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:35 pm
  • Reply Kate Simpson

    I love this! Your gorgeous and deserve to be all the confident 🙂

    May 3, 2017 at 6:42 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Thank you so much Kate!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:37 pm
  • Reply Samantha Kuzyk | Raising Twincesses

    Loved this post girl! You do you ’cause you’re awesome! Totally agree with all 3 of your points! Keep up the good work! I love seeing fashion blogs with women of all sizes!

    May 3, 2017 at 8:33 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Thank you Samantha! You are so sweet!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:40 pm
  • Reply jennyblaisdell

    Loving this outfit girl! These are all so true.

    May 3, 2017 at 9:35 pm
  • Reply Alexis

    I’m very happy that you started your blog! I frequently enjoy reading your posts and appreciate that you’re not the “typical blogger.” Your confidence is contagious. Never forget that and keep it up!

    May 3, 2017 at 10:13 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Aww Alexis you are so sweet! You have no idea how much this made me smile! Thank you so much for your continued support!

      May 3, 2017 at 11:42 pm
  • Reply Angela Amores

    First I love your outfit!! Second I love this post. Yes to confidence, and being okay you aren’t exyz’s cup of tea. You’re awesome!!

    May 3, 2017 at 11:21 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Aww thank you Angela! 🙂

      May 3, 2017 at 11:45 pm
  • Reply Rachel

    Love these Silvia! Couldnt’ agree more with each of these! And happy you overcame your fear and launched! you have great style and are a great fashion blogger!

    May 4, 2017 at 7:14 am
    • Reply Silvia

      Aww thanks Rachel! You are so sweet!

      May 10, 2017 at 3:11 pm
  • Reply the sofieyah diaries

    Super super true!! Because not everyone is going to believe in you either and sometimes you just gotta have faith!

    May 4, 2017 at 7:43 am
    • Reply Silvia

      I agree! Faith and courage is all it takes.

      May 10, 2017 at 3:13 pm
  • Reply Zayda Cortez

    Hey babe! Awesome post. And to be completely honest, when I met you I thought that girl is so confident and radiant! You just have such a great aura! So happy you did start to blog. I love that you bring diversity to the stereotype of what a blogger looks like. I’m petite too and there’s a ton of women that want to love a blogger that looks and thinks like them! 💖 *hugs*

    May 4, 2017 at 9:37 am
    • Reply Silvia

      Omg you are seriously the sweetest! You have no idea how much this made me smile! I thought the same thing about you and love your spirit. *hugs back*

      May 10, 2017 at 3:37 pm
  • Reply rainbowflash94yahoocom

    What a great post Silvia! I think blogging is such a great way to gain confidence. Your blog has done so well and I can’t believe you’ve only been doing it 9 months!

    xoxo A

    May 4, 2017 at 9:44 am
    • Reply Silvia

      Thanks girly! You are so sweet!

      May 10, 2017 at 3:37 pm
  • Reply Amber Starr

    Love this post! I find that the longer I blog, the more I start to not care about others thoughts and I’ve been trying to hard to regain my voice as I feel I held back a bit at the beginning.

    May 4, 2017 at 12:19 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      Me too! I was holding back at first but it’s slowly pouring out.

      May 10, 2017 at 3:38 pm
  • Reply Candice Nikeia

    Great tips girl! I needed this reminder! You’re amazing!

    May 5, 2017 at 12:52 am
    • Reply Silvia

      I’m glad it helped! 🙂

      May 10, 2017 at 3:39 pm
  • Reply Nicole Simonetti (@nicoleeigh)

    I think one of the most admirable thing about style bloggers is that they are super confident. it takes a lot to get behind a camera, model an outfit and then find the right words to speak to it! x, nicole //

    May 6, 2017 at 6:25 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      It does take a lot of confidence. I’m glad I’ve been able to build it!

      May 10, 2017 at 3:47 pm
  • Reply Rachel Kennedy Christian

    Love the blush bag! Perfect for Spring!

    May 8, 2017 at 10:55 am
  • Reply Seydy V

    I really enjoyed your post and I agree 1,000%. I’ve been blogging for about two years now and just recently I decided to be more dedicated and venture out into fashion posts on my blog. At first I was so scared of people judging the way I looked in an outfit I believed looked great on me but after a few shoots, I gained more confidence and I do not mind going out into the city and being myself.

    xoxo, Seydy!

    May 9, 2017 at 4:16 pm
    • Reply Silvia

      That’s amazing! I was also scared when I first started. Now I just post whatever I think looks good to me!

      May 10, 2017 at 4:12 pm

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